Something I think we are fairly expert at in business and in life, especially women, is waiting for permission.
We can sometimes feel guilty for asking for what we want in life so we wait for approval from others – our partners, our colleagues, our friends – and it’s not our fault, it’s what we’ve been conditioned to believe we have to do, because we’ve never been told we can strike out on our own and just go for something.
That’s certainly how I experienced things anyway. Coming from a role as an Art Director you wouldn’t think this would be the case, but even so, I still had a boss to report into who would track my progress and let me know how I was doing and I became used to asking someone else what they thought about what I was working on.
But what happens when we go it alone as an entrepreneur?
It can be scary.
It can be daunting.
And despite all the initial fire in our belly, sometimes we can still be waiting for that permission or looking for that validation from others along our path.
So I’d like to invite you to check in on where you might still be in employee mindset in your business and how you can break free from this.
Are you acting like the girl boss you want to be yet?
Here’s how to check in and see where you might still be waiting for permission:
- You’re Still Asking Everyone Else For Advice – This one sounds obvious, but you run the business so you make the decisions. As a new entrepreneur it can be tempting to become tentative when you’re still figuring things out and run around asking everyone else for their opinion on your next steps, but staying in this gear for too long won’t help your credibility or allow you to be really seen. It’s so important to position yourself as the leader in your business, and leaders don’t ask for permission honey 😉 Take ownership and blaze the trail for either the team you already have or the one you want to create.
- You’re Feeling Guilty For Taking a Break – It can be tempting to run into overdrive when you first start out on the entrepreneurial road but self-care is the most important thing if you are to be able to show up as your best self, but the workaholic thing can be a hangover from our corporate career. As an entrepreneur, it’s OK to take a break, AKA; you organise your time the way you want to. Don’t forget, you’re the leader, there’s no boss over your shoulder anymore, so don’t be afraid to set the schedule that works for you.
- You’re Comparing Yourself – Again, this one’s about leading but also fully OWNING who you are and what you’re trying to create with the awesomely unique message only YOU have to offer. When we’re new on our journey, it can be seductive to want to emulate another seemingly successful business owner’s ‘steps’ or journey, but a true girl boss doesn’t stray from her path. Sure you can be inspired, but you’ve got to carve your own way forward in the business world to allow your offering to be totally unique to you.
Waiting for someone else to give you the green light can really hold you back in your business. Not even your business coach can call the shots on what you ultimately want to create, so start giving yourself the permission you know you deserve to really own not only your business decisions but who you are as a person.
That way, you can really start showing up as the leader you were born to be.
Do you know a fellow entrepreneur who’s a born leader but just isn’t quite stepping into her leader shoes yet? Share this article with her or leave a comment below and get the conversation started.